Ny3333333! trying hard to spell out the cry of a baby as rendered in local Ghanaian dialect

Ny3333333! trying hard to spell out the cry of a baby as rendered in local Ghanaian dialect
The 1st time a man or woman hears that sound from their own seed it's a magical moment. When it comes to childbearing, In Africa we actually find innovative ways to torture people who delay(intentionally or not) or decide not to have babies. It is such a biiiig deal ....but this is the subject of another blog. My focus here is on the actual experience of a having a 1st child seen through the eyes of father.
I don't believe most counseling sessions and friendly pre marriage advice sessions prepare a man for the 1st 12 months of their childs life.
To do this I have to paint a picture for you that will serve as a case study of sorts
Mr and Mrs Asasewura met and courted for 12 months and promptly got engaged; the 1st month of their engagement Mrs Asasewura got pregnant ....therefore @ their Christian wedding ceremony to bless their marriage she was already 3 months gone...yup don't judge
Mr Asasewura prior to getting married scarcely missed a Friday night out with the boys and had this once or twice a month nightclub out routine going. He was also brought to be responsible for his wife with his mum never failing to remind him to constantly go by the cliche "mind the gutter darling". It was no wonder that being the chivalrous young man he was from day 1 of marriage he cut out Friday nights and club sessions.
This break from tradition came with no signs of withdrawal symptoms so Mr Asasewura felt really good and happy about his marriage. 9 months from conception was the birth of Mr & Mrs Asasewura's beautiful baby gal . Mr Asasewura had by this time become a stay @ home hubby, with a close relatioNship with his wife, not surprising Because for the 1st 6 months of their marriage it was just the 2 of them the 4 walls of their new home (except when he had to be at work)
When his wife went into labour he took her to the hospital without breaking the 6 month tradition of just the two of them.
After 48 hours of labour during which he left the hospital for only 1 hour baby Asasewura was delivered, a sweet and chubby baby girl
The 1st 3 weeks passes like a dream....1st week in the hospital went by quickly but the 2 weeks in his parents in law home were too long for him. He wanted his wife back at home with ...none of this customary Ghanaian thing of 3 months stay at her mums to learn the rudiments of baby care and to get grandmas loving care
His wife and inlaws caved in in merely 2 weeks. The elated Mr Asasewura had his wife @ home to himself, Plus of course his chubby and lovely new princess
What follows is what i believe every new couple need to note.
Interestingly the 1st 2 months were tough for both mum and dad Asasewura but fun as well.
The princess woke up every night bawling loudly...somx a milky boob will shut her up other times only carrying her whiles walking around( no sitting, no standing, no lying)
That stabilized and after that the "trial" of Mr Asasewura began
He felt like an outsider or a visitor an unseen one in their home. He had very little access to the woman he had spent every day of the last 6 months with alone @ home
His baby loved booby milk so much that it was never really comfy with daddy
Mummy Asasewura was so engrossed with this novel baby care thing that Mr Asasewura had barely seized to exist. As a good wife his evening meal and other wifely duties were always on point. Mr Asasewura was frustrated to the point of anger,and was beginning to despise the idea of having a child( yup that bad)
He complained bitterly to Mrs Asasewura but at the stage in her life her daughter was her world, and of course the advice of mr Asasewura's motherinlaw ( her mum). Note that since motherinlaws advice was focused on mothering Mr Asasewura felt even more removed from the action.
He tried talking to other people and they looked at him weirdly, almost like...how can you feel like that when its your wife and daughter.
This torture continued for 24 months and by then there was a 3 point relationship..mum and dad, mum and daughter, dad and daughter ...but not all 3 together

They are still happily married and baby Asasewura is a pretty young and intelligent lady who dotes on her father, she scarcely notices her mum, who is constantly jealous of their relationship ( yup tables have turned)
My question couldn't the 1st 24 months have been easier or managed better at least, because the situation painted could have ended much worse, even led to breakup

Some advice I have sought on this issue indicates that the best thing for the couple to do is to be involved together with the baby care.

Apparently this is fairly common advice known to people who have been through this, my question why are issues of money, cheating,sex etc given so much airtime and this most powerful male trauma ( at least according to Mr Asasewura) not given the attention it requires.
Other advice is don't have a baby till you guys have had like 2 years of being together
I'm am eager to hear from any readers out there on views on how to deal with this better and also to hear other experiences.
Thank you for reading, and say a prayer for the Asasewura's and other such couples :)
Spread the word to newly weds and prevent an Asasewura type trauma from breaking up a happy home.

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